aku sendiri pernah loh comment something yg skrg aku pikir2 mestinya ngga boleh lah ngomong gitu..
dulu..pas belom hamil...denger cerita ada temen yg kayak cuek banget sama anaknya...ini orang emang ngurus anak sendiri and ga punya maid juga...katanya kadang kalo anaknya nangis, dicuekin gitu..mamanya malah nongkrong depan internet..
pas denger gitu...aku n temen lgs berkomen...ihhh kok mamanya gitu sihhh
tapi tau ngga...setelah ngerasain sendiri...kadang2 kita yg 24 jam ngurusin anak, rumah, suami...bisa jenuh juga loh...kita tuh ngga punya kebebasan mau ngapa2in..smuanya depends on situation...mau pergi aja liat jadwal tidur n makan anak...mau makan pun hrs gantian, krn kalo anak bosen hrs entertain...dsb dsb yang ngga bisa di-describe satu per satu...diceritain pun percuma..harus alami sendiri..baru deh ngerti gimana rasanya
aku sendiri kalo lg jenuh bgt...jaga caleb jg sambil ber FB...kalo caleb nangis...sering juga aku rada cuekin...krn nangisnya bukan nangis beneran...nangis complain for my attention gitu...jangankan main FB, kita masak di dapur ato pipis aja, caleb nya protes...
krn masa2 10 bulan- 18 bulan tuh ada yg namanya separation anxiety...dan menurutku nangis2 dikit dibiarin gpp..kita juga manusia, perlu refreshing so we get our senses back, just balance everything in our life...a little bit of crying wont hurt him..dan bagus melatih dia utk bisa independent...tau gak kalo baby juga butuh and hrs dilatih utk bisa punya independent play time..jadi ga harus tiap kali main ditemenin..for caleb, his independent play time is always after his meal..for around 20-30 mins..most of the times, he's doing very well :)
another thing...
when we go out for outing...jangan kaget kalo liat suamiku yang lebih banyak gendong, main, and tidurin caleb (tapi kalo suapin caleb sih tetep hrs mamanya...krn daddynya ngga bisa hehehe).
My hubby is a very thoughtful husband..and I'm thankful to have him...dia bilang dia ngerti jenuhnya aku di rumah semingguan ngurusin anak..and he knows that my life has changed alot ever since caleb was born..so he wants to make sure that whenever we go out for outing, I have to have fun and enjoy...so he will try his best to take care of Caleb.. (but of course, aku ngga bisa sepenuhnya lepas tanggung jawab..kalo ngga caleb nya mau sama mommy-nya..ya mommynya kangen juga kalo ngga main sama caleb sama skali hehehe..)
cuman...ada aja orang yang ngga bakal ngerti and bisanya cuma menilai dan menilai...mungkin mereka pikir..that i'm not doing my job/role as a mom..and let santo do all my job...maybe people saw santo putting caleb to sleep sambil gendongin dia...or when we eat, and caleb is bored..santo will carry him and take him outside for a walk...
i know that maybe some people will think..why not let the mother do it???
you know... it's okay for whatever you think..cause I know not many people can understand what mothers like me are going through...you can say whatever you want in your mind, your heart...or even make a direct comment to me... but I also feel I've no obligation to explain everything...what for? you won't understand...unless you're going through what I am too..
here are some comments I found on the motherhood forum..and all these words came from mothers who take care of their own child without the help of a maid:
"Feel the same way abt not having much 'me' time."
"where got time to go movie. same here, hb think watch from internet or DVD is much cheaper & comfortable. Besides, bb is with us, anything we can attend him immediately, & if we're tired can immediately go to bed.... last time,i can stay up late night then go to bed, now cannot tahan... ard 11++ already very sleeping .... battery flat after a day of work & taking care bb at night .... battery flat after a day of work & take care of bb... wrinkles & white hair getting more ...sop sop
""every since have a baby, I've lost all my social time.... long time didn't go for movie & holidays
How I wish to"and this is from a mother who used to take care her child alone but now she's working:
"i know what is the feeling like of facing my kids the whole day. Generally it's enough to drive me crazy, so it's a good thing that i'm working. At least when i go home after work, i'll be so happy to see them and play with them!"
and mothers out there...I know what you're talking about..I do understand :)
you're not alone.. and thank God I read your comments too..so I know I'm not alone too!
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