I love love love to equip myself with knowledge when it comes to raising a child.
One of the ways is by reading a book.
we may be mothers and fathers, but we have never been parents before. even if this is not your first child, I'm sure to equip ourselves to prevent repeated mistakes is necessary.
since caleb is on the way to toddlerhood, I think it is time for me to read tracy's book about toddlerhood. and I was so impressed with so much important knowledge there that I am very certain if I didn't read this book, I will definetely be trapped into some accidental parenting.
For example, she mentioned the topic of taming your toddler. Do you know that we most likely prevent baby from crying that we will do anything to please him (e.g. by giving him whatever he wants), and therefore he will grow up to be someone who always want things on his way, otherwise he will throw you a tantrum if he doesn't get it. we do need to allow our child to feel emotions (e.g.anger, frustration) so that we can teach him to deal with his emotion and how to calm himself down.
I'm still reading the book just 1/4 of it hee..but really find it interesting and feels like I'm educated with just the right knowledge I need.
of course, some theory might just stay as a theory and I can't say that I will agree to everything the book says. But I love to know the information and just implement it wisely :)
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
Monday, January 25, 2010
10 months old
10 months old sounds like he is so much older right..I mean 10 months!!!
he is more like a toddler now than a baby..hee...not a baby not yet a toddler haha..
he surprised me today by standing without holding on anything, just for a few secs..
but I just checked on baby center that this categorized as an advanced skill for a 10 month old baby..bravo caleb! :D
what's happening til now?
well, his lower tooth just cut last week. (I was wrong, I thought next would be the molar and then the lower tooth but actually it was the other way round). And with that, he gained his appetite. He still refuses anything except his cereals but he eats well and fast..fastest than he used to, like 10-15mins for 1 bowl of cereals..he now takes chicken flavour, mixed vege, oats n prunes, honey and wheat cereals (before he was more choosy that he only took the mixed vege n oats only).
and I think I proved what i have hunched. that what the PD said about the bad habit is not right. he was just teething.
and I am now more relaxed. even if i have cooked him something and he refused to eat it..I will just throw it away and change to cereal. I come to be in peace with this war of getting him eat 'what i want him to eat - meaning: porridge'.
I guess I just have to respect that he has his own preference. Let's just not to worry about nutrients. I am sure cereals have nutrients. and he is still getting 600ml++ of milk a day. and looking at him now..I believe he is a very smart baby, he will just grow well. and I believe he gets his daddy's gene of "i love to eat anything"...it's just about the timing. someday he will love to eat anything and outgrow this cereals.
ohh..regarding food, he now loves finger food! he doesnt really like blended fruits anymore..so now I cut the fruits to small pieces and he can just chew it well. he loves eating breads too :)
About sleeping:
hmm I forgot to tell you that we decided to go back to 3 naps a day instead of 2.
I know..I know..baby this age can just do 2 naps..but if he has 2 naps, his bedtime will be at 7pm and we noticed that if we put him to sleep at 7pm, he didn't really sleep through. so we still have his nap 3x a day and bedtime at 8.30 or 9pm. He sleeps better. Plus we get to go out at night :)
here's caleb's routine at 10 months:
7.30am: wake up and 150ml of milk
9am: 1st nap
9.45: wake up and activity
11am: lunch + fruit
12.30: milk 100ml and straight to bed (2nd nap)
2pm: wake up+activity (snacks- bread/biscuit/fruit)
4pm: dinner
4.45pm: 3rd nap
5.30pm: wake up+ milk 120ml+activity
8.30: get ready to sleep
but if we need to go out at around 4pm which is his dinner time, I will switch the dinner at 6pm and i give him milk at 4pm.
I know 4 pm sounds so early for dinner. but if we are not going out, I like 4pm for dinner so after he wakes up from his 3rd nap...hubby and I can take caleb for a walk without having to worry that we need to wait til 6pm.
I don't know when caleb will be ready for 2 naps and still can manage to sleep at least 8pm. mall his friends have been taking 2 naps already. but well..i know he will do it naturally, so i choose not to train him in this matter.
he is more like a toddler now than a baby..hee...not a baby not yet a toddler haha..
he surprised me today by standing without holding on anything, just for a few secs..
but I just checked on baby center that this categorized as an advanced skill for a 10 month old baby..bravo caleb! :D
what's happening til now?
well, his lower tooth just cut last week. (I was wrong, I thought next would be the molar and then the lower tooth but actually it was the other way round). And with that, he gained his appetite. He still refuses anything except his cereals but he eats well and fast..fastest than he used to, like 10-15mins for 1 bowl of cereals..he now takes chicken flavour, mixed vege, oats n prunes, honey and wheat cereals (before he was more choosy that he only took the mixed vege n oats only).
and I think I proved what i have hunched. that what the PD said about the bad habit is not right. he was just teething.
and I am now more relaxed. even if i have cooked him something and he refused to eat it..I will just throw it away and change to cereal. I come to be in peace with this war of getting him eat 'what i want him to eat - meaning: porridge'.
I guess I just have to respect that he has his own preference. Let's just not to worry about nutrients. I am sure cereals have nutrients. and he is still getting 600ml++ of milk a day. and looking at him now..I believe he is a very smart baby, he will just grow well. and I believe he gets his daddy's gene of "i love to eat anything"...it's just about the timing. someday he will love to eat anything and outgrow this cereals.
ohh..regarding food, he now loves finger food! he doesnt really like blended fruits anymore..so now I cut the fruits to small pieces and he can just chew it well. he loves eating breads too :)
About sleeping:
hmm I forgot to tell you that we decided to go back to 3 naps a day instead of 2.
I know..I know..baby this age can just do 2 naps..but if he has 2 naps, his bedtime will be at 7pm and we noticed that if we put him to sleep at 7pm, he didn't really sleep through. so we still have his nap 3x a day and bedtime at 8.30 or 9pm. He sleeps better. Plus we get to go out at night :)
here's caleb's routine at 10 months:
7.30am: wake up and 150ml of milk
9am: 1st nap
9.45: wake up and activity
11am: lunch + fruit
12.30: milk 100ml and straight to bed (2nd nap)
2pm: wake up+activity (snacks- bread/biscuit/fruit)
4pm: dinner
4.45pm: 3rd nap
5.30pm: wake up+ milk 120ml+activity
8.30: get ready to sleep
but if we need to go out at around 4pm which is his dinner time, I will switch the dinner at 6pm and i give him milk at 4pm.
I know 4 pm sounds so early for dinner. but if we are not going out, I like 4pm for dinner so after he wakes up from his 3rd nap...hubby and I can take caleb for a walk without having to worry that we need to wait til 6pm.
I don't know when caleb will be ready for 2 naps and still can manage to sleep at least 8pm. mall his friends have been taking 2 naps already. but well..i know he will do it naturally, so i choose not to train him in this matter.
Sunday, January 17, 2010
we have won for the 2nd time!
yes..we have won again! our 2nd pigeon voucher..I just can't believe we have won twice!! I mean...twice?? really God's grace right?
but we have promised if we won again, we would buy something for our friend whose wife is pregnant now..
well I still hope we can win again hahaha...and if we win again for the 3rd time, I'm going to give away the voucher or buy a pigeon sterilizer for my friend.. :)
Friday, January 8, 2010
tambah capek tapi tambah lucu juga
he's growingggg...how many times I mentioned this in my blog yah..hahaha...but heis growing up so fast... a few days ago hubby and I buka2 lagi album fotonya..kita liat dari dia newborn..cuma masih bisa bobo doang rambutnya dikit banget...
aduhh liat dia skrg...udah gede..gerak mulu sampe mommy capek deh jagainnya..
tapi walau begitu dia tambah lucuuu..tambah gemesin and tambah disayang!
here are the things that always make my day:
1.when he crawls to me blabbering ma ma ma and when he reaches me, he climbs up holding on my shoulder and the gives me a hug
2. when he kisses me..he will open his mouth make an O shape and lands his lips on my cheek and say Oooaaa (meaning: muach ^^)
3. when he giggles when I peek a boo him, tickles him or makes funny face
4. everytime he learns new things..be it standing, crawling..and recently is waving bye bye
5. when he smiles to me everytime he wakes up from sleep
and I keep thinking about his birthday which will happen soon..in the next 2 months!!! so fast right? I know!!! can't believe it'll soon be 1 year!! hmm...
aduhh liat dia skrg...udah gede..gerak mulu sampe mommy capek deh jagainnya..
tapi walau begitu dia tambah lucuuu..tambah gemesin and tambah disayang!
here are the things that always make my day:
1.when he crawls to me blabbering ma ma ma and when he reaches me, he climbs up holding on my shoulder and the gives me a hug
2. when he kisses me..he will open his mouth make an O shape and lands his lips on my cheek and say Oooaaa (meaning: muach ^^)
3. when he giggles when I peek a boo him, tickles him or makes funny face
4. everytime he learns new things..be it standing, crawling..and recently is waving bye bye
5. when he smiles to me everytime he wakes up from sleep
and I keep thinking about his birthday which will happen soon..in the next 2 months!!! so fast right? I know!!! can't believe it'll soon be 1 year!! hmm...
Friday, January 1, 2010
here comes my tough days
akhirnya sempet juga nulis blog..kmrn cuma nyempetin masukin foto2 aja..baru sadar kalo udah lama ngga masukin foto2 di blog..ingetnya cm masukin ke FB doang hehehe..
well iyahh..sesuai title di atas..this is my tough days nehh.. :(
the fussy eating week has come.
bayangin dari tgl 23 dec kmrn n selama 5 hari caleb ngga mau makan sama sekali. he just closed his lips tightly. this is the worst ever..karena walau biasanya rewel makan paling ngga dia masih mau habisin 1/2 bowl..ngga pernah kayak gini deh..
hari ke 5 sebenernya mau bawa ke dokter..tapi entah knp my hubby dapet hikmat utk masukin makanan caleb ke kulkas..jadi makanannya dingin gitu but surprisingly dia mau loh makan..hari ke 5 n 6 dia mau makan dingin2 gitu..tapi hari ke 7 dia ngga mau lagi :(
akhirnya kita ke dr kumar. dokter bilang caleb beratnya masih terhitung normal kok (9.4kg). I swear last week dia 10 kg..krn ga makan aja jadi turun beratnya..tapi dokter ga percaya, dia bilang aku salah liat kali..well watever..
then dokter bilang bukan krn giginya juga jadi rewel..it's just simply a bad habit. karena kalo caleb ngga mau makan, aku selalu kasi susu atau biscuit. nah itu bikin dia jadi berpikir it's ok ngga makan, toh ntar dpt yg enak..which is susu n biscuit.
trus dokternya suggest susunya 3x sehari aja ...jgn banyak2...anwyay kalo dia laper,pasti makan juga akhirnya. the reason krn dia ga mau makan juga krn dia masih kenyang.
hmm ya udah..watever deh dok..udah desperate ya diikutin aja.
emang sih besokannya stlh ikut kata dokter-kurangin susu n no more snacks..caleb finally eats (tanpa masukin kulkas), cuma tetep aja makannya tuh ngga lahap dan dia belom makan sebanyak dulu :(
dia makan krn emang laper dan terpaksa...huhuhu mommy ngga happy kalo makannya terpaksa :(
dan walau dokter bilang apalah yahh..tapi my instinc tuh bilang kalo ini teething. krn gigi grahamnya itu bakal tumbuh..dan graham biasanya emang takes longer time utk cut the gum..dan slm proses itu kyknya bakal susah makan...i dunno..it's just my feeling yah..
abis ngga terima dibilang i create bad habit for caleb..dari mana..lah wong sebelomnya sampe tgl 22 dec he wast eating fine and lots plus susunya juga ya sperti biasa yg aku kasi..trus in 1 night bisa berubah??
hari ini aku do research (Sempet juga akhirnya..maklum kmrn ada parents dateng sibuk jalan2 terus..) dan bener loh aku ketemu bbrp mothers yg curhat kalo anaknya umur 9-10 bulan refused to eat slm 1 minggu (by the time mrk ngetik itu uda berlangsung 1 minggu)..and mereka so stressed and sad and frustrated...sampe ada 1 mommy yg bilang: I even cried and prayed during the whole feeding..I know I sound silly right..
sayangnya review yg aku baca itu udah dated 2008..coba kalo just recently I will reply her and tell her that "you are NOT silly because you're not alone..I cried, I prayed during the whole time feeding too"
wah pokoknya kayak abis perang roh, perjuangan besar utk bisa suapin anak..stlh selesai rasanya capekkk smuaaa..dari badan capek,pikiran, hati.. :(
yg aku pikirin cuma..aduhh gmn yahh anakku ga makan ntar ga dapet nutrisi..trus ntar sekolahnya ga pinter gimana..aduhhhh bikin mau nangis deh kalo mikir gitu..
trus as I browsed down the forum..the same mommy nulis lagi..kali ini good news dia bilang ternyata it's the molar! jadi susah makan itu krn teething. and the molar just popped out and anaknya balik lagi jadi happy eater!!!
trus aku baca juga bbrp mothers yg laen di forum laen..facing the same problem and found out it's teething too..
aduhh lega dehhh...berarti banyak skali yg ngalami kayak aku and caleb..
jujur aja kalo krn teething aku lbh lega..krn once giginya tumbuh, balik asal lagi happy eater...tapi kalo soal bad habit, it's not easy to break..kalo soal character..itu juga susah..
dan at least kalo teething, it will end!
well..thanks to internet I can find resources to back up my instinc...and find that other lots of people experience the same :)
I'm not alone..
well iyahh..sesuai title di atas..this is my tough days nehh.. :(
the fussy eating week has come.
bayangin dari tgl 23 dec kmrn n selama 5 hari caleb ngga mau makan sama sekali. he just closed his lips tightly. this is the worst ever..karena walau biasanya rewel makan paling ngga dia masih mau habisin 1/2 bowl..ngga pernah kayak gini deh..
hari ke 5 sebenernya mau bawa ke dokter..tapi entah knp my hubby dapet hikmat utk masukin makanan caleb ke kulkas..jadi makanannya dingin gitu but surprisingly dia mau loh makan..hari ke 5 n 6 dia mau makan dingin2 gitu..tapi hari ke 7 dia ngga mau lagi :(
akhirnya kita ke dr kumar. dokter bilang caleb beratnya masih terhitung normal kok (9.4kg). I swear last week dia 10 kg..krn ga makan aja jadi turun beratnya..tapi dokter ga percaya, dia bilang aku salah liat kali..well watever..
then dokter bilang bukan krn giginya juga jadi rewel..it's just simply a bad habit. karena kalo caleb ngga mau makan, aku selalu kasi susu atau biscuit. nah itu bikin dia jadi berpikir it's ok ngga makan, toh ntar dpt yg enak..which is susu n biscuit.
trus dokternya suggest susunya 3x sehari aja ...jgn banyak2...anwyay kalo dia laper,pasti makan juga akhirnya. the reason krn dia ga mau makan juga krn dia masih kenyang.
hmm ya udah..watever deh dok..udah desperate ya diikutin aja.
emang sih besokannya stlh ikut kata dokter-kurangin susu n no more snacks..caleb finally eats (tanpa masukin kulkas), cuma tetep aja makannya tuh ngga lahap dan dia belom makan sebanyak dulu :(
dia makan krn emang laper dan terpaksa...huhuhu mommy ngga happy kalo makannya terpaksa :(
dan walau dokter bilang apalah yahh..tapi my instinc tuh bilang kalo ini teething. krn gigi grahamnya itu bakal tumbuh..dan graham biasanya emang takes longer time utk cut the gum..dan slm proses itu kyknya bakal susah makan...i dunno..it's just my feeling yah..
abis ngga terima dibilang i create bad habit for caleb..dari mana..lah wong sebelomnya sampe tgl 22 dec he wast eating fine and lots plus susunya juga ya sperti biasa yg aku kasi..trus in 1 night bisa berubah??
hari ini aku do research (Sempet juga akhirnya..maklum kmrn ada parents dateng sibuk jalan2 terus..) dan bener loh aku ketemu bbrp mothers yg curhat kalo anaknya umur 9-10 bulan refused to eat slm 1 minggu (by the time mrk ngetik itu uda berlangsung 1 minggu)..and mereka so stressed and sad and frustrated...sampe ada 1 mommy yg bilang: I even cried and prayed during the whole feeding..I know I sound silly right..
sayangnya review yg aku baca itu udah dated 2008..coba kalo just recently I will reply her and tell her that "you are NOT silly because you're not alone..I cried, I prayed during the whole time feeding too"
wah pokoknya kayak abis perang roh, perjuangan besar utk bisa suapin anak..stlh selesai rasanya capekkk smuaaa..dari badan capek,pikiran, hati.. :(
yg aku pikirin cuma..aduhh gmn yahh anakku ga makan ntar ga dapet nutrisi..trus ntar sekolahnya ga pinter gimana..aduhhhh bikin mau nangis deh kalo mikir gitu..
trus as I browsed down the forum..the same mommy nulis lagi..kali ini good news dia bilang ternyata it's the molar! jadi susah makan itu krn teething. and the molar just popped out and anaknya balik lagi jadi happy eater!!!
trus aku baca juga bbrp mothers yg laen di forum laen..facing the same problem and found out it's teething too..
aduhh lega dehhh...berarti banyak skali yg ngalami kayak aku and caleb..
jujur aja kalo krn teething aku lbh lega..krn once giginya tumbuh, balik asal lagi happy eater...tapi kalo soal bad habit, it's not easy to break..kalo soal character..itu juga susah..
dan at least kalo teething, it will end!
well..thanks to internet I can find resources to back up my instinc...and find that other lots of people experience the same :)
I'm not alone..
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