We had a great weekend.
On saturday we went swimming and caleb was really excited..he kept pointing on the float and said "miming..miming" (*swimming)
and once he saw the pool he got more excited that he just want to run into the pool before we got to undress him haha..
on Sunday after church..we had a great and fun fellowship with dear friends.
and really Thank God that we finally able to sit and talk for the entire 'cafe-ing time'. Neither me or hubby need to attend to cranky Caleb because he is bored. My helper really did a good job entertaining Caleb and accompanying him here and there...so Caleb had fun too..mommy and daddy also happy :) everyone had fun...
Oh Caleb and his cute actions never fail to make us laugh.
He is now the little Mr.Hygiene in the family. Whenever he sees rubbish...paper, cans, box..he will pick it up and throw it into the dust bin. Last week, we passed by the mailbox downstairs and saw so many flyers and brochures scattered on the floor...he just went there and pick it up one by one and threw it into the dust bin. We all cheered him on the last paper he picked..and he also cheered and clapped together with us :D
I am now in office and missing him so much!
Monday, August 23, 2010
Monday, August 16, 2010
Happy Husband
I was listening to pastor's sermon cd at home just now and Caleb woke up twice. He walked out the room...first with crying and second looking confused and rubbed his eyes..he must have wondered if he was in church hahaha..or if pastor visited us??
Anyway, I am happy I get the cd coz we missed out this good sermon because we went back to indo. The first sermon's title is happy husband, second one is happy wife. Today I listened the happy husband (not finished yet due to Caleb waking up).
But I like what pastor said. He said that a man's success is determined by the level of his wife's happiness. If a man is rich and all but his wife is living and feeling miserably then you cannot say he is a success man. Pastor also encouraged all husbands to treat and appreciate their wives. To bring us to nice restaurant, to buy us some make ups, to make sure we eat well and dress well...
Because you will grow old together..and someday your children will leave you, and it will just be the two of you. So make sure your wife will look good and live well...(And she will only look good if she is well taken care since you both are young).
I do not write this in a hope that my hubby will read this and get a clue of how he is supposed to treat me (I know he will read this post). No...in fact, I want to say thank you for being a good husband and has done all the things that pastor said before you have even listened to this sermon.
I love you, honey..I'm thankful to have you.
Good night..(can you stop playing WE now? =_=)
Anyway, I am happy I get the cd coz we missed out this good sermon because we went back to indo. The first sermon's title is happy husband, second one is happy wife. Today I listened the happy husband (not finished yet due to Caleb waking up).
But I like what pastor said. He said that a man's success is determined by the level of his wife's happiness. If a man is rich and all but his wife is living and feeling miserably then you cannot say he is a success man. Pastor also encouraged all husbands to treat and appreciate their wives. To bring us to nice restaurant, to buy us some make ups, to make sure we eat well and dress well...
Because you will grow old together..and someday your children will leave you, and it will just be the two of you. So make sure your wife will look good and live well...(And she will only look good if she is well taken care since you both are young).
I do not write this in a hope that my hubby will read this and get a clue of how he is supposed to treat me (I know he will read this post). No...in fact, I want to say thank you for being a good husband and has done all the things that pastor said before you have even listened to this sermon.
I love you, honey..I'm thankful to have you.
Good night..(can you stop playing WE now? =_=)
my prayer
Caleb is almost 17m now..
and I love this age and this phase so much!
he just understands so much and watching him is always fun.
One minute he can be dancing..one minute he grabs a broom and help me clean the floor and so many things he does now..and everything he does is cute!
My boy may not be the cutest baby but he is cute! haha..cute and chubby and definetely cute in all his action. he is smart and funny just like his daddy :)
I pray that God will use him always. That when people with all their problems, when they see my baby and his cute actions..they will for a few secs have a good laugh and forget what bother them.
May he always spread the joy and become blessing to the people around him :)
and I love this age and this phase so much!
he just understands so much and watching him is always fun.
One minute he can be dancing..one minute he grabs a broom and help me clean the floor and so many things he does now..and everything he does is cute!
My boy may not be the cutest baby but he is cute! haha..cute and chubby and definetely cute in all his action. he is smart and funny just like his daddy :)
I pray that God will use him always. That when people with all their problems, when they see my baby and his cute actions..they will for a few secs have a good laugh and forget what bother them.
May he always spread the joy and become blessing to the people around him :)
Sunday, August 15, 2010
FTWM vs SAHM
Deciding to be a FTWM (full time working mother) or SAHM (stay at home mother) can be hard because you don't know what's going to happen if you choose this or that. It does take some risks. Thanks to one of my oldest friend (Merilyn) who is now pregnant and might have this consideration on her mind right now..It has inspired me to write about this topic.
My view may not be perfect solution or the best guideline but I post this with no other purposes but to help you out.
so here it goes...
You may consider to be a FTWM (full time working mom):
1. If you know for sure you are a career woman type. You just love to work, reach your target, being in a competitive environment, you love the feeling of your adrenalines at work. Well, some woman, like my mom for example, their calling is to be on a career track and they just do well on their jobs. Don't feel guilty for being a great career woman, even if you suck being a housewife. and don't be afraid that your child will bond more to your maids rathen than with you. a child will know who is her/his parents. I am a living example. My mom never on the 'hands on' taking care of me when I was a baby. My baby sitter did her job. But I grew up closer to my mom than my baby sitter (my bb sitter is still with us til now..tho she doesn't bb sit anymore, she is the chef in my house now). To me..it's just a matter of how you manage your time to spend some quality bonding time with your child when you're not at work.
2. If you are worried about your family financial situation if you quit your job, then it's probably best to stay at work.
Here are some suggestion (re: your baby care) if you decide to be FTWM:
1. Hire a helper/maid
2. Hire a nanny (in singapore you can also hire a nanny but of course it's expensive)
3. You may put your child in childcare
(you may need to request for a tour of the childcare before you decide to choose. Make sure the care taker there really cares for your child. Ask how many babies one person is allowed to handle. the smaller group, the better. Also, check on its hygine too. Usually a good childcare will maintain cleanliness and check on every child, making sure none of them are sick before they go to class..this to prevent you child to fall sick often. Because babies immune are not strong built yet. Oh lastly, choose the one that is nearby your home or your work place so that it saves your travelling time and cost)
4. If your parents or relatives stay in the same country/city and willing to take care of your child...why not?
You may consider to be SAHM (stay at home mothers):
1. If you know for sure you will love your job as a housewife.
2. You just can't trust or can't find a good maid/nanny, no parents or relative stay nearby.
3. You want to bond more with your child
4. Your family will survive with single income comes from your husband.
5. You want to eliminate maid/nanny/childcare cost
Some other tips:
If you are now pregnant and working and still couldn't decide whether to quit your job after your labour. Don't rush your decision. You have your 3 months maternity leave. During these 3 months you can see and observe yourself whether you'll be good at taking care of your baby and stay at home. Some mothers just can't wait to go back to work.
If you love being SAHM but worry about financial issues, you may consider:
1. rent one of the rooms in your house so you can get extra income without leaving your baby.
2. start online business
3. freelance job
If you love working but you don't want to leave you baby too long, you may consider a part time job (half day), but then you have to find a way who is going to take care of your baby while you work. Childcare has half day programs, if you are interested.
If you really plan to hire a maid, my suggestion is to hire one before your baby reach 7m or max is 10m, that is before the separation anxiety kicks in (baby refuse strangers). The older your baby is, the harder it will be for him/her to adjust to new person in your house.
My view towards both FTWM and SAHM:
I believe both have their own challenges. FTWM struggles to find time for their baby while SAHM deal with isolation, losing their 'me' time and so on.
I have spent almost 1.5 year being a full time SAHM. I tell you more about it since I've been there. You will feel like you are so isolated because you spend too many time just you and baby. You feel like you can't do the things you used to do. Routine is your life. From waking up til you to bed, it's the same. There are alot of sacrifices you make. this is why a career woman will find it difficult to be SAHM. One working mother who spent a week being SAHM because her maid went back to indo confessed in the forum that she couldn't do this and really can't wait to go back to work.
But I tell you..despite those scarifices, it's worth it because you will find joy to be the first person (Always) to witness your baby's milestones. When he first roll over, eat, crawl, stand up and walk etc. And it is your privilege that your baby thinks that you are his only world!!! he will love you and want you so much..all the time!! haha...
I suggest if you SAHM, involve yourself in a motherhood forum, find some mommies whose babies at the same age as your baby and arrange some playdates. It feels good knowing you are not alone and that some mothers feel what you feel.
I have now come back to the work place. Although I take part time job, but I feel this is the best for me. I honestly tell you I love working! but I really want to have enough time with Caleb. I love to be able to teach him many things and see how fast he improves everyday. It makes me proud being a good mother. For now this is the best solution for me...part time job, hiring a maid I can trust, and still be on track on the motherhood thingy.
I hope you make the right decision :)
My view may not be perfect solution or the best guideline but I post this with no other purposes but to help you out.
so here it goes...
You may consider to be a FTWM (full time working mom):
1. If you know for sure you are a career woman type. You just love to work, reach your target, being in a competitive environment, you love the feeling of your adrenalines at work. Well, some woman, like my mom for example, their calling is to be on a career track and they just do well on their jobs. Don't feel guilty for being a great career woman, even if you suck being a housewife. and don't be afraid that your child will bond more to your maids rathen than with you. a child will know who is her/his parents. I am a living example. My mom never on the 'hands on' taking care of me when I was a baby. My baby sitter did her job. But I grew up closer to my mom than my baby sitter (my bb sitter is still with us til now..tho she doesn't bb sit anymore, she is the chef in my house now). To me..it's just a matter of how you manage your time to spend some quality bonding time with your child when you're not at work.
2. If you are worried about your family financial situation if you quit your job, then it's probably best to stay at work.
Here are some suggestion (re: your baby care) if you decide to be FTWM:
1. Hire a helper/maid
2. Hire a nanny (in singapore you can also hire a nanny but of course it's expensive)
3. You may put your child in childcare
(you may need to request for a tour of the childcare before you decide to choose. Make sure the care taker there really cares for your child. Ask how many babies one person is allowed to handle. the smaller group, the better. Also, check on its hygine too. Usually a good childcare will maintain cleanliness and check on every child, making sure none of them are sick before they go to class..this to prevent you child to fall sick often. Because babies immune are not strong built yet. Oh lastly, choose the one that is nearby your home or your work place so that it saves your travelling time and cost)
4. If your parents or relatives stay in the same country/city and willing to take care of your child...why not?
You may consider to be SAHM (stay at home mothers):
1. If you know for sure you will love your job as a housewife.
2. You just can't trust or can't find a good maid/nanny, no parents or relative stay nearby.
3. You want to bond more with your child
4. Your family will survive with single income comes from your husband.
5. You want to eliminate maid/nanny/childcare cost
Some other tips:
If you are now pregnant and working and still couldn't decide whether to quit your job after your labour. Don't rush your decision. You have your 3 months maternity leave. During these 3 months you can see and observe yourself whether you'll be good at taking care of your baby and stay at home. Some mothers just can't wait to go back to work.
If you love being SAHM but worry about financial issues, you may consider:
1. rent one of the rooms in your house so you can get extra income without leaving your baby.
2. start online business
3. freelance job
If you love working but you don't want to leave you baby too long, you may consider a part time job (half day), but then you have to find a way who is going to take care of your baby while you work. Childcare has half day programs, if you are interested.
If you really plan to hire a maid, my suggestion is to hire one before your baby reach 7m or max is 10m, that is before the separation anxiety kicks in (baby refuse strangers). The older your baby is, the harder it will be for him/her to adjust to new person in your house.
My view towards both FTWM and SAHM:
I believe both have their own challenges. FTWM struggles to find time for their baby while SAHM deal with isolation, losing their 'me' time and so on.
I have spent almost 1.5 year being a full time SAHM. I tell you more about it since I've been there. You will feel like you are so isolated because you spend too many time just you and baby. You feel like you can't do the things you used to do. Routine is your life. From waking up til you to bed, it's the same. There are alot of sacrifices you make. this is why a career woman will find it difficult to be SAHM. One working mother who spent a week being SAHM because her maid went back to indo confessed in the forum that she couldn't do this and really can't wait to go back to work.
But I tell you..despite those scarifices, it's worth it because you will find joy to be the first person (Always) to witness your baby's milestones. When he first roll over, eat, crawl, stand up and walk etc. And it is your privilege that your baby thinks that you are his only world!!! he will love you and want you so much..all the time!! haha...
I suggest if you SAHM, involve yourself in a motherhood forum, find some mommies whose babies at the same age as your baby and arrange some playdates. It feels good knowing you are not alone and that some mothers feel what you feel.
I have now come back to the work place. Although I take part time job, but I feel this is the best for me. I honestly tell you I love working! but I really want to have enough time with Caleb. I love to be able to teach him many things and see how fast he improves everyday. It makes me proud being a good mother. For now this is the best solution for me...part time job, hiring a maid I can trust, and still be on track on the motherhood thingy.
I hope you make the right decision :)
Tuesday, August 3, 2010
Officially back at work
How do i feel?
hmmm....biasa aja tuh...ngga excited juga ngga sedih2 banget..totally biasa banget.
not nervous too...Coz 5 years ago I worked there and I still remember what my job scope was and now is pretty much the same except that there are more accounting jobs to do.
Eventhough I was a total SAHM (stay at home mother) for 1.5 years, I'm quite confident I still got what it takes to be in the working line.. ---> not trying to boast but anyway I'm saying this also because I want to prove myself that I am right about what I say.
But I miss Caleb!!!
I was sitting on my office when I suddenly stared at a familiar cutey face nearby the PC..which is my son's picture :D
I can't help smiling at the photo...really miss him!
which is why...I want to arrive on time at office so that I can go home on time too..
Until now..I still consider part time job is the best for me.
I can't imagine working full time + the travelling time..that would leave me only 2-3 hours to see Caleb at home...that's sad! and that's not what I want.
I only want to work full time if the office is at my house! hahaha...
oh about Caleb..
he's doing fine being left at home with ibu. So far we stick to the plan that hubby will take care of him til his lunch time then he will leave to office, leaving Caleb for about 1 hour til I come home around 2pm.
we haven't tried training ibu and Caleb for nap and meal time. we decided to give them some more time to bond and then try again. But I observe that both have actually been doing pretty good in bonding in these 2 weeks. I hope soon this matter will settled!
hmmm....biasa aja tuh...ngga excited juga ngga sedih2 banget..totally biasa banget.
not nervous too...Coz 5 years ago I worked there and I still remember what my job scope was and now is pretty much the same except that there are more accounting jobs to do.
Eventhough I was a total SAHM (stay at home mother) for 1.5 years, I'm quite confident I still got what it takes to be in the working line.. ---> not trying to boast but anyway I'm saying this also because I want to prove myself that I am right about what I say.
But I miss Caleb!!!
I was sitting on my office when I suddenly stared at a familiar cutey face nearby the PC..which is my son's picture :D
I can't help smiling at the photo...really miss him!
which is why...I want to arrive on time at office so that I can go home on time too..
Until now..I still consider part time job is the best for me.
I can't imagine working full time + the travelling time..that would leave me only 2-3 hours to see Caleb at home...that's sad! and that's not what I want.
I only want to work full time if the office is at my house! hahaha...
oh about Caleb..
he's doing fine being left at home with ibu. So far we stick to the plan that hubby will take care of him til his lunch time then he will leave to office, leaving Caleb for about 1 hour til I come home around 2pm.
we haven't tried training ibu and Caleb for nap and meal time. we decided to give them some more time to bond and then try again. But I observe that both have actually been doing pretty good in bonding in these 2 weeks. I hope soon this matter will settled!
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