Having a helper/nanny in our family for the past 2 months have taught me that it is best to raise our kids ourselves. I have some beliefs and knowledge that may differ from others and I hope that my son will learn good and true moral education.
Last month I overheard my helper scolded our TV cabinet because Caleb bang his head to it while trying to reach a ball. She scolded " bad cabinet!! ".
I didn't agree and approve that..neither have I ever blamed a non living thing just because my son had bumped to it. I would rather tell my son that he needs to be careful next time.
Today, I am not feeling well..down with flu symptoms and really want to rest. So I told my helper to take my son to the playground so I can rest a while. But Caleb still miss her mommy so much, he didn't want to be separated from me. So my helper told him "come on let's go..see..daddy is home already..he's at the door!". Of course, hearing 'daddy is home' had distracted my son enough to make him run to the living room...just to find there was noone there.
I hate this. I don't like lying. So far I remember I never lie to my son. and I don't like the idea of someone else planted a seed of lie to my son. It is because we lied to our kids, then they know how to lie when they're bigger.
So I just told my helper.." don't lie to him".
When I was in Jakarta, I remember one incident where my sis in law talked over to my nephew who at that time refused to take shower and go to school. My sis in law said "you have to be a good boy, otherwise mr policeman will come and arrest you...you don't want that to happen, don't u?"
I don't know if my nephew really believed her or not...but he then took shower and went to school with a grumpy face.
I have always thought and believed that kids (and babies) are smart. We are not supposed to treat them like they don't know anything.
I have always believed that Caleb understands what I'm talking about since he was a baby...and these days I see him able to communicate and follow instruction better than other kids I know.
If we choose to believe that kids/babies are not smart enough that they just believe your lies, well...that's what you'll get. It may save your situation for that moment, but I don't think it's a good moral education for them in future if you planted lies.
But I guess what just happened between my helper and my son, that would happen again...we are living in this world who belong the the king of lies, we face this. I pray that I will never have to lie to my son or anyone else...and may I be given the wisdom to educate my son and to help him deal with people's lies and that he will grow to be an honorable man of God.
Thursday, September 23, 2010
Sunday, September 12, 2010
My favourites
These are my fave list of "Caleb's lil actions":
1. He will say 'amen' whenever he hears me saying "in Jesus mighty name". Sometimes he will even say amen before I finish my prayer :D
the point is..he knows that we are praying!
2. He knows where's Jesus! If I ask him..where's Jesus? He will point up..and I will say "yes, He is in heaven". and If I ask him where's Holy Spirit, he will touch his chest..and I will say "yes, in your heart" :)
3. Every morning 8am and evening 5pm..he will automatically take his slippers and ask mommy to put them on because he knows for sure it's playground time! There's one time..we had a playdate at my friend's place..it was 5.15pm and he went to take his slippers and knock the front door, telling me it's time to go home coz he wants to play at playground *lols*
4. He makes sure he says bye-bye to mommy before he's going to playground. Yesterday I wasn't paying attention coz I was reading. So he called me "mamma...mamma.." to get my attention...and then he said bye-bye and kissed me. awww...so sweet...
5. Whenever I say "no..no..no" to him..he will repeat after me "no..no..no" and immitate how i shake my point finger :D
6. Whenever he sees some flyers, brochures below our mailbox downstaits..he will clean it up n throw them into the bin!
7. He is getting more friendly than before. He will smile to strangers and say HI and BYE.
8. Every morning he will join all those ah-ma (elderly) and do excercise with them...those ah-mas surely have a good laugh watching my son...I'm glad he brings joy to them every morning :)
9. He likes to carry heavy things now..he will say " heavy..heavy.." but still insist to carry it!!
10. he likes to drink tea!! he will go "ahhh...ahhh" as if the tea is very hot, although it is actually not hot at all..
1. He will say 'amen' whenever he hears me saying "in Jesus mighty name". Sometimes he will even say amen before I finish my prayer :D
the point is..he knows that we are praying!
2. He knows where's Jesus! If I ask him..where's Jesus? He will point up..and I will say "yes, He is in heaven". and If I ask him where's Holy Spirit, he will touch his chest..and I will say "yes, in your heart" :)
3. Every morning 8am and evening 5pm..he will automatically take his slippers and ask mommy to put them on because he knows for sure it's playground time! There's one time..we had a playdate at my friend's place..it was 5.15pm and he went to take his slippers and knock the front door, telling me it's time to go home coz he wants to play at playground *lols*
4. He makes sure he says bye-bye to mommy before he's going to playground. Yesterday I wasn't paying attention coz I was reading. So he called me "mamma...mamma.." to get my attention...and then he said bye-bye and kissed me. awww...so sweet...
5. Whenever I say "no..no..no" to him..he will repeat after me "no..no..no" and immitate how i shake my point finger :D
6. Whenever he sees some flyers, brochures below our mailbox downstaits..he will clean it up n throw them into the bin!
7. He is getting more friendly than before. He will smile to strangers and say HI and BYE.
8. Every morning he will join all those ah-ma (elderly) and do excercise with them...those ah-mas surely have a good laugh watching my son...I'm glad he brings joy to them every morning :)
9. He likes to carry heavy things now..he will say " heavy..heavy.." but still insist to carry it!!
10. he likes to drink tea!! he will go "ahhh...ahhh" as if the tea is very hot, although it is actually not hot at all..
thank You for our health
Being physically and mentally healthy is really something we need to be thankful everyday.
As a parent to see my son gets flu is heart breaking enough, I couldn't imagine something worse than that.
I have read articles about autism, hyperactive and read a blog and watched a movie about parents with autism kid. Wow..my heart cried for those parents and kids. They must have gone through alot of struggles, shed alot of tears, drained emotionally and not to mention the expenses on the treatment.
and today I witness with my own eyes..an autism kid.. a 6 year pretty girl on the MRT. I wouldn't notice she is an autist if she wasn't yelling, keep wanting to bite her finger and poke her nose.
She is one pretty girl u know...
She was sitting in the midle of two filipino maids...wow her mom has 2 maids to baby sit her..can u imagine how costly that is! I bet she pays very expensive for the helpers...otherwise who would want to stay if not for the high pay..
As I looked at her...I can imagine what her parents are going through..it must had been hard when the first time they found out that their daughter has autism. and the girl too..she couldn't grow up normally like other kids do. :(
I try my very best not to stare or look at her whenever she made noise or screamed.
I know and understand this. When Caleb is having those mini-fits on MRT coz he doesnt want to sit still on his stroller, I will feel so uneasy if people stare at us...with or without the judgement from them..well, hey what do you know about my struggles or my kid? you're not in my shoe...so pls dont make it more difficult right?
To help myself get distracted from looking at her, I prayed. yes..I prayed for her parents that God will give them strength and the patience that they need to raise their daughter. and I prayed that God will make this pretty girl to come to know Jesus someday..despite her development disorder.
Jesus loves you, pretty girl..
As a parent to see my son gets flu is heart breaking enough, I couldn't imagine something worse than that.
I have read articles about autism, hyperactive and read a blog and watched a movie about parents with autism kid. Wow..my heart cried for those parents and kids. They must have gone through alot of struggles, shed alot of tears, drained emotionally and not to mention the expenses on the treatment.
and today I witness with my own eyes..an autism kid.. a 6 year pretty girl on the MRT. I wouldn't notice she is an autist if she wasn't yelling, keep wanting to bite her finger and poke her nose.
She is one pretty girl u know...
She was sitting in the midle of two filipino maids...wow her mom has 2 maids to baby sit her..can u imagine how costly that is! I bet she pays very expensive for the helpers...otherwise who would want to stay if not for the high pay..
As I looked at her...I can imagine what her parents are going through..it must had been hard when the first time they found out that their daughter has autism. and the girl too..she couldn't grow up normally like other kids do. :(
I try my very best not to stare or look at her whenever she made noise or screamed.
I know and understand this. When Caleb is having those mini-fits on MRT coz he doesnt want to sit still on his stroller, I will feel so uneasy if people stare at us...with or without the judgement from them..well, hey what do you know about my struggles or my kid? you're not in my shoe...so pls dont make it more difficult right?
To help myself get distracted from looking at her, I prayed. yes..I prayed for her parents that God will give them strength and the patience that they need to raise their daughter. and I prayed that God will make this pretty girl to come to know Jesus someday..despite her development disorder.
Jesus loves you, pretty girl..
when is the 2nd one coming?
I have alot of people asking me this question. Maybe they see Caleb is bigger now, they wonder if I plan to have #2.
The answer is....
NO......T
YET.
it will only happen when Caleb is about 3.5 years..then I will start to plan for #2.
Why?
OMG...I love this stage so much! I love Caleb being 1.5 year old..he just has too many cute actions and words. I don't know if other toddlers at this age really give you a colorful life full of joy and laughter like Caleb does, but Caleb is one wonderful person of mine and I really want to enjoy him so much and I'm not willing to share my attention and love to another baby right now.
I do pray and tell God about it, but of course if by all means He still wants to trust me another baby sooner than I expect..I will love her (hopefully it's a girl!) too, of course!
The answer is....
NO......T
YET.
it will only happen when Caleb is about 3.5 years..then I will start to plan for #2.
Why?
OMG...I love this stage so much! I love Caleb being 1.5 year old..he just has too many cute actions and words. I don't know if other toddlers at this age really give you a colorful life full of joy and laughter like Caleb does, but Caleb is one wonderful person of mine and I really want to enjoy him so much and I'm not willing to share my attention and love to another baby right now.
I do pray and tell God about it, but of course if by all means He still wants to trust me another baby sooner than I expect..I will love her (hopefully it's a girl!) too, of course!
FInally...
Yes...finally I am able to blog again...and I have a sudden rush to post 3 topics today.
Firstly, I'm going to update regarding the helper and Caleb.
After 1 month+, I see a good improvement which is...ibu now can put Caleb to sleep and she is able to feed him. BUT...caleb still refuses to receive his milk bottle from ibu. He wants mommy or daddy to be the one passing him the bottle.
They have actually bonded quite well now...it is that well that makes me worried if mommy is no longer be Caleb's fave person in his world now.
But thankfully...it is not proven! yippee...!! :D
I am still his no 1 person!!
I knew this when Caleb was having fever and very cranky due to post MMR-V vaccination, he only find his most comfort in me - his mom!
and then I found out from hubby that sometimes after he comes home from playground in the morning..he will run home and call mommy and search all around the house. Of course he won't find me coz I have already left to office by that time. The good thing is he doesn't cry. He will look for me and after he realized I'm not home..he's fine.
And on weekend when i'm not working, I noticed that when he wakes up from his nap, he will also look for me. I asked my husband if he looks for me too on weekdays...my husband said yes it happens sometimes.
and then one more thing: there are times when he only wants to be with mommy, don't try to take him away from me..he will get..like really mad at you! :D
Firstly, I'm going to update regarding the helper and Caleb.
After 1 month+, I see a good improvement which is...ibu now can put Caleb to sleep and she is able to feed him. BUT...caleb still refuses to receive his milk bottle from ibu. He wants mommy or daddy to be the one passing him the bottle.
They have actually bonded quite well now...it is that well that makes me worried if mommy is no longer be Caleb's fave person in his world now.
But thankfully...it is not proven! yippee...!! :D
I am still his no 1 person!!
I knew this when Caleb was having fever and very cranky due to post MMR-V vaccination, he only find his most comfort in me - his mom!
and then I found out from hubby that sometimes after he comes home from playground in the morning..he will run home and call mommy and search all around the house. Of course he won't find me coz I have already left to office by that time. The good thing is he doesn't cry. He will look for me and after he realized I'm not home..he's fine.
And on weekend when i'm not working, I noticed that when he wakes up from his nap, he will also look for me. I asked my husband if he looks for me too on weekdays...my husband said yes it happens sometimes.
and then one more thing: there are times when he only wants to be with mommy, don't try to take him away from me..he will get..like really mad at you! :D
Monday, August 23, 2010
thankful
We had a great weekend.
On saturday we went swimming and caleb was really excited..he kept pointing on the float and said "miming..miming" (*swimming)
and once he saw the pool he got more excited that he just want to run into the pool before we got to undress him haha..
on Sunday after church..we had a great and fun fellowship with dear friends.
and really Thank God that we finally able to sit and talk for the entire 'cafe-ing time'. Neither me or hubby need to attend to cranky Caleb because he is bored. My helper really did a good job entertaining Caleb and accompanying him here and there...so Caleb had fun too..mommy and daddy also happy :) everyone had fun...
Oh Caleb and his cute actions never fail to make us laugh.
He is now the little Mr.Hygiene in the family. Whenever he sees rubbish...paper, cans, box..he will pick it up and throw it into the dust bin. Last week, we passed by the mailbox downstairs and saw so many flyers and brochures scattered on the floor...he just went there and pick it up one by one and threw it into the dust bin. We all cheered him on the last paper he picked..and he also cheered and clapped together with us :D
I am now in office and missing him so much!
On saturday we went swimming and caleb was really excited..he kept pointing on the float and said "miming..miming" (*swimming)
and once he saw the pool he got more excited that he just want to run into the pool before we got to undress him haha..
on Sunday after church..we had a great and fun fellowship with dear friends.
and really Thank God that we finally able to sit and talk for the entire 'cafe-ing time'. Neither me or hubby need to attend to cranky Caleb because he is bored. My helper really did a good job entertaining Caleb and accompanying him here and there...so Caleb had fun too..mommy and daddy also happy :) everyone had fun...
Oh Caleb and his cute actions never fail to make us laugh.
He is now the little Mr.Hygiene in the family. Whenever he sees rubbish...paper, cans, box..he will pick it up and throw it into the dust bin. Last week, we passed by the mailbox downstairs and saw so many flyers and brochures scattered on the floor...he just went there and pick it up one by one and threw it into the dust bin. We all cheered him on the last paper he picked..and he also cheered and clapped together with us :D
I am now in office and missing him so much!
Monday, August 16, 2010
Happy Husband
I was listening to pastor's sermon cd at home just now and Caleb woke up twice. He walked out the room...first with crying and second looking confused and rubbed his eyes..he must have wondered if he was in church hahaha..or if pastor visited us??
Anyway, I am happy I get the cd coz we missed out this good sermon because we went back to indo. The first sermon's title is happy husband, second one is happy wife. Today I listened the happy husband (not finished yet due to Caleb waking up).
But I like what pastor said. He said that a man's success is determined by the level of his wife's happiness. If a man is rich and all but his wife is living and feeling miserably then you cannot say he is a success man. Pastor also encouraged all husbands to treat and appreciate their wives. To bring us to nice restaurant, to buy us some make ups, to make sure we eat well and dress well...
Because you will grow old together..and someday your children will leave you, and it will just be the two of you. So make sure your wife will look good and live well...(And she will only look good if she is well taken care since you both are young).
I do not write this in a hope that my hubby will read this and get a clue of how he is supposed to treat me (I know he will read this post). No...in fact, I want to say thank you for being a good husband and has done all the things that pastor said before you have even listened to this sermon.
I love you, honey..I'm thankful to have you.
Good night..(can you stop playing WE now? =_=)
Anyway, I am happy I get the cd coz we missed out this good sermon because we went back to indo. The first sermon's title is happy husband, second one is happy wife. Today I listened the happy husband (not finished yet due to Caleb waking up).
But I like what pastor said. He said that a man's success is determined by the level of his wife's happiness. If a man is rich and all but his wife is living and feeling miserably then you cannot say he is a success man. Pastor also encouraged all husbands to treat and appreciate their wives. To bring us to nice restaurant, to buy us some make ups, to make sure we eat well and dress well...
Because you will grow old together..and someday your children will leave you, and it will just be the two of you. So make sure your wife will look good and live well...(And she will only look good if she is well taken care since you both are young).
I do not write this in a hope that my hubby will read this and get a clue of how he is supposed to treat me (I know he will read this post). No...in fact, I want to say thank you for being a good husband and has done all the things that pastor said before you have even listened to this sermon.
I love you, honey..I'm thankful to have you.
Good night..(can you stop playing WE now? =_=)
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