I am so happy with his babywise blog I found the other day! Because she has exactly the same thought as me about going to church.
You see...my church service is from 10-12..and we have to leave home by 9am and come back home the earliest by 1.30pm (mostly will reach at 2pm anyway). That means caleb will miss 2 naps! 2 naps for him is alot!!! and then with alot of people coming to see and play with caleb..that makes him become over stimulated..so when we reach home, not only he's exhausted but also over stimulated..can u imagine how cranky he is? I always have my struggle on sunday night...putting him to sleep on sunday night is always difficult.
That's why I got so pissed off with a friend who woke caleb in his sleep on last last sunday!!! Grrr....masih sebel banget kalo inget itu...gw udah nidurinnya susah..gendong slm 45 mins, eh baru gw taruh di kereta (strollernya gw tutup loh padahal!!!), pas nyampe gereja ada juga yang maen nyelonong ngagetin caleb - padahal keretanya ditutup loh!! suebeeelll buangetttt.... dan gara2 itu, caleb jd cranky...dan jadwalnya ngaco...akibatnya aku ngga bisa denger sermon..krn caleb rewel, ngantuk!! --> yakkk ini marah2 jadi pake indo deh nulisnya hahaha...
anyway..about this babywise blog..she gives many suggestions about going to church with baby.
and so I follow her...this morning, I wake caleb earlier (7am) so by 8.45 he'll be sleepy and he takes his 1st nap earlier than usual. the plan worked. he slept for 45 mins before going to church. At least he had his morning nap! It's so important not to miss the 1st nap. we took cab to church (hubby sacrificed money to save caleb's nap). so when we arrive in chruch, we enjoy the praise and worship. by 11.30 caleb was sleepy again and ready for his 2nd nap..so hubby put him to sleep outside..well, this is a sacrifice too..coz one of us has to miss half of the sermon.
the plan worked well...caleb was not as cranky as all the other sundays..coz he had his nap (Although only 45 mins of each nap). But even IF he is cranky after all the plan that we work through and finally I have to face him being cranky..that's just my sacrifice right..
so let all these sacrifice I make is for the glory of God :)
anyway, check this out for info about going to church with baby:
http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2008/05/church-weekly-disruption.html
Showing posts with label motherhood. Show all posts
Showing posts with label motherhood. Show all posts
Sunday, July 12, 2009
My greatest sacrifice
Motherhood does change you alot and often requires your biggest sacrifice (especially those without any helper to take care of your child).
Since I become a mother, I have given up alot of things that I like to do..
For example, just because I want to make sure caleb has enough sleep, I would give up any outings that will take alot of his nap times. If he misses one nap, it's okay but not 2 naps in a day or else he'll become cranky. Anyway, to me caleb's sleep is very important as we all know that when they sleep well, they grow well too. And also when it comes to bedtime, I really want him to sleep in his room, not in a crowded place like malls...imagine yourself sleeping on the street where people walk by..I bet you won't have a good sleep too, right? maybe, when caleb is older and ready for a longer outing, I may take him..but not now..
For this reason, I am really sorry for not being able to come to erinna's and daniel's farewell dinner.
I really want to come..but I have caleb now..and he's my priority. This is what a mother has to sacrifice.
Before caleb was born, I loved going out and just hanging out with friends and be home by midnight. Sometimes I really miss those times. And even to just go out to the mall for 1-2 hours, just to have time for myself..it could not be possible this time. Sometimes I have planned it well but I may have to cancel because my hubby has to work late, or the timing just unfit caleb's schedule. There were once..I really don't know why but I just burst my tears just because I can't go to the mall to buy some things..I know it's not important..but I felt so dissapointed that I couldn't go..desperate enough to have some private time for myself. Again, a sacrifice I've to make. and the next day, I finally could go to the nearest mall to buy some presents for friends..and I have to rush coz I only have 1.5hour to do it and had to be home for caleb's bedtime.
I didn't call friends anymore to chit chat. Friends don't call me too. my sacrifice.
(lucky, got FB..so still updated for their latest news ^^)
I give up my singer duty in chuch music ministry. another sacrifice.
My first commission this year, I spend to buy caleb's stuffs. forget about buying clothes for myself. somehow I just loose the will to buy for myself. For me, I'm happy I can buy nice things for caleb :)
But today I am so relieved to hear pastor preached about whatever we do, we do for the glory of God, including what you do for your family, raising your child, etc.
I so agree with pastor! this mummy job actually takes more sacrifices than any kind of ministries I ever did in church. and truthfully, this is the kind of sacrifice that makes your spirit grows stronger as you kill more of your flesh. This is when you put others first than yourself. This is when you say NO to the things that you want for yourself. it's not easy, but I thank God I am a mother now and that I serve Him now in my true calling as a mother.
Since I become a mother, I have given up alot of things that I like to do..
For example, just because I want to make sure caleb has enough sleep, I would give up any outings that will take alot of his nap times. If he misses one nap, it's okay but not 2 naps in a day or else he'll become cranky. Anyway, to me caleb's sleep is very important as we all know that when they sleep well, they grow well too. And also when it comes to bedtime, I really want him to sleep in his room, not in a crowded place like malls...imagine yourself sleeping on the street where people walk by..I bet you won't have a good sleep too, right? maybe, when caleb is older and ready for a longer outing, I may take him..but not now..
For this reason, I am really sorry for not being able to come to erinna's and daniel's farewell dinner.
I really want to come..but I have caleb now..and he's my priority. This is what a mother has to sacrifice.
Before caleb was born, I loved going out and just hanging out with friends and be home by midnight. Sometimes I really miss those times. And even to just go out to the mall for 1-2 hours, just to have time for myself..it could not be possible this time. Sometimes I have planned it well but I may have to cancel because my hubby has to work late, or the timing just unfit caleb's schedule. There were once..I really don't know why but I just burst my tears just because I can't go to the mall to buy some things..I know it's not important..but I felt so dissapointed that I couldn't go..desperate enough to have some private time for myself. Again, a sacrifice I've to make. and the next day, I finally could go to the nearest mall to buy some presents for friends..and I have to rush coz I only have 1.5hour to do it and had to be home for caleb's bedtime.
I didn't call friends anymore to chit chat. Friends don't call me too. my sacrifice.
(lucky, got FB..so still updated for their latest news ^^)
I give up my singer duty in chuch music ministry. another sacrifice.
My first commission this year, I spend to buy caleb's stuffs. forget about buying clothes for myself. somehow I just loose the will to buy for myself. For me, I'm happy I can buy nice things for caleb :)
But today I am so relieved to hear pastor preached about whatever we do, we do for the glory of God, including what you do for your family, raising your child, etc.
I so agree with pastor! this mummy job actually takes more sacrifices than any kind of ministries I ever did in church. and truthfully, this is the kind of sacrifice that makes your spirit grows stronger as you kill more of your flesh. This is when you put others first than yourself. This is when you say NO to the things that you want for yourself. it's not easy, but I thank God I am a mother now and that I serve Him now in my true calling as a mother.
Tuesday, June 16, 2009
My 1st day in Singapore without suster
My first day..my first whole day without suster was..........SUPER DUPER TIRED!!!
whoaaaa....
si caleb bener2 ngga mau bobo di bed-nya..he wants to be carried all the time..he only sleeps on his bed at night from 9pm onwards..
haduhhhhhhhhhhhh cape dehhh....backache nehhh..
oh ya 1st day juga berasa pengen nangis mulu nih..soalnya pas di rumah sendirian doang ama caleb..i feel so lonely...jadi kangen suasanya rumah sby...banyak org yg bisa ajak caleb maen jadi dia gak bosen..and di sby there are many rooms and views yg caleb bisa explore and observe...di sini yah gitu2 aja lah..tau sendiri apartment kan gak segede rumah di indo..trus kalo lagi ngobrol2 ama caleb suka keinget suster di indo yg demen banget ngajakin caleb ngoceh2 and he also enjoys that so much..kalo inget ini jadi pengen nangis...i wonder if caleb will miss her...suster sih definetely miss him so much..sampe ga bisa tidur katanya semalem :)
but so far...everything's good...dari mandiin caleb, maen2 ama dia, minum susu smua lancar..cuma bagian nidurin dia aja yg susah..krn pas ditaruh dia nangis lg...well, thank God nya lagi he sleeps through the night dari jam 9pm-3.30am - minum susu- trus bobo lg sampe 7.30 lumayan lah bisa istirahat...
whoaaaa....
si caleb bener2 ngga mau bobo di bed-nya..he wants to be carried all the time..he only sleeps on his bed at night from 9pm onwards..
haduhhhhhhhhhhhh cape dehhh....backache nehhh..
oh ya 1st day juga berasa pengen nangis mulu nih..soalnya pas di rumah sendirian doang ama caleb..i feel so lonely...jadi kangen suasanya rumah sby...banyak org yg bisa ajak caleb maen jadi dia gak bosen..and di sby there are many rooms and views yg caleb bisa explore and observe...di sini yah gitu2 aja lah..tau sendiri apartment kan gak segede rumah di indo..trus kalo lagi ngobrol2 ama caleb suka keinget suster di indo yg demen banget ngajakin caleb ngoceh2 and he also enjoys that so much..kalo inget ini jadi pengen nangis...i wonder if caleb will miss her...suster sih definetely miss him so much..sampe ga bisa tidur katanya semalem :)
but so far...everything's good...dari mandiin caleb, maen2 ama dia, minum susu smua lancar..cuma bagian nidurin dia aja yg susah..krn pas ditaruh dia nangis lg...well, thank God nya lagi he sleeps through the night dari jam 9pm-3.30am - minum susu- trus bobo lg sampe 7.30 lumayan lah bisa istirahat...
Tuesday, June 9, 2009
another 5 days
deg-deg-an nih nunggu hari minggu..
pertama, karena mesti naek pesawat lagi sama caleb. emang kemaren pas balik sby, di pesawat caleb ngga rewel..bobo mulu..cuma nangis bentar pas landing..
cuma sekarang beda loh..caleb uda lbh besar...belom genep 2.5 bulan his neck is already strong..sekarang mintanya digendong posisi duduk seperti baby 4-5 bulan aja..kalo tiba2 diubah posisi ke lying down bisa protes nangis2 dia..dan dia juga gampang bosen..makanya itu deg2an nih di pesawat ntar gimana ya kalo dia bosen.berdoa aja sebelom naek pesawat uda ketiduran dulu..krn kalo nidurin pas dlm pesawat takutnya malah tambah rewel..
kedua...aduhhh kayak apa ya my life back in SG..it's gonna be so different!
ngga ada suster or my parents yg bisa help me on the day..and there will be some time di mana cuma ada aku and caleb di rumah.
tapi thank God-nya AT LEAST aku masih jauh lbh siap dari keadaan bulan lalu. gara2 di indo lbh sering ngurus caleb...bahkan kalo malem aku cuma bobo sendiri sama caleb..ngga ada hubby or suster..skrg jadi terbiasa..kalo caleb nangis uda bisa tenangin dia..bahkan kadang bisa ketawa liat caleb nangis keras..hehe i just feel that he's still my cute baby though he cries out loud...
BEDA banget sama keadaan bulan lalu pas masih di sgp...wahhh jangankan ditinggal di rumah sendirian sama caleb...ditinggal suster mandi 10 menit aja, aku benernya uda ketakutan banget...takut si caleb kalo bangun nangis gimana...berdoa suster cepet2 mandinya..hahaha..lucu ya...maklum lah first time mother and I'm still young too ^^
trus skrg juga uda lbh enjoy maen2 sama caleb...dia skrg lagi lucu2nya..aduh gemessss...!!
lebih sering senyum and ketawa ngakak...bisa diajak ngobrol although jawabnya masih aa..oo..aaa..ooo...hehehe...
but well..at least skrg uda ngga takut lagi...tapi tetep deg2an krn ngebayanginnya pasti hari2ku lbh cape..
Btw...pengen tau aja baby milestones pada umumnya gimana sih...
caleb skrg hampir 2.5bulan..dia udah bisa menyangga kepalanya sendiri..bisa digendong duduk..
kalo di tengkurepin..dia bisa naikin kepalanya tinggi2 (although tangannya masih belom bisa push his chest up.,just the neck and the head)...trus since yesterday dia uda mulai balikin badan ke samping kayak mau flip over gitu although belom bener2 bisa tengkurep..tapi ALMOST there...my prediction bentar lagi pasti bisa..my aunts and mom said mestinya belom waktunya..so they said caleb ini termasuk cepet perkembangannya..well, dunno deh bener apa ngga...krn aku ngga baca buku2 milestones gini...umur berapa bisa apa etc...taunya umur 6 bln uda mulai solid food..and setaon bisa jalan ..gitu doang hehehehe...
pertama, karena mesti naek pesawat lagi sama caleb. emang kemaren pas balik sby, di pesawat caleb ngga rewel..bobo mulu..cuma nangis bentar pas landing..
cuma sekarang beda loh..caleb uda lbh besar...belom genep 2.5 bulan his neck is already strong..sekarang mintanya digendong posisi duduk seperti baby 4-5 bulan aja..kalo tiba2 diubah posisi ke lying down bisa protes nangis2 dia..dan dia juga gampang bosen..makanya itu deg2an nih di pesawat ntar gimana ya kalo dia bosen.berdoa aja sebelom naek pesawat uda ketiduran dulu..krn kalo nidurin pas dlm pesawat takutnya malah tambah rewel..
kedua...aduhhh kayak apa ya my life back in SG..it's gonna be so different!
ngga ada suster or my parents yg bisa help me on the day..and there will be some time di mana cuma ada aku and caleb di rumah.
tapi thank God-nya AT LEAST aku masih jauh lbh siap dari keadaan bulan lalu. gara2 di indo lbh sering ngurus caleb...bahkan kalo malem aku cuma bobo sendiri sama caleb..ngga ada hubby or suster..skrg jadi terbiasa..kalo caleb nangis uda bisa tenangin dia..bahkan kadang bisa ketawa liat caleb nangis keras..hehe i just feel that he's still my cute baby though he cries out loud...
BEDA banget sama keadaan bulan lalu pas masih di sgp...wahhh jangankan ditinggal di rumah sendirian sama caleb...ditinggal suster mandi 10 menit aja, aku benernya uda ketakutan banget...takut si caleb kalo bangun nangis gimana...berdoa suster cepet2 mandinya..hahaha..lucu ya...maklum lah first time mother and I'm still young too ^^
trus skrg juga uda lbh enjoy maen2 sama caleb...dia skrg lagi lucu2nya..aduh gemessss...!!
lebih sering senyum and ketawa ngakak...bisa diajak ngobrol although jawabnya masih aa..oo..aaa..ooo...hehehe...
but well..at least skrg uda ngga takut lagi...tapi tetep deg2an krn ngebayanginnya pasti hari2ku lbh cape..
Btw...pengen tau aja baby milestones pada umumnya gimana sih...
caleb skrg hampir 2.5bulan..dia udah bisa menyangga kepalanya sendiri..bisa digendong duduk..
kalo di tengkurepin..dia bisa naikin kepalanya tinggi2 (although tangannya masih belom bisa push his chest up.,just the neck and the head)...trus since yesterday dia uda mulai balikin badan ke samping kayak mau flip over gitu although belom bener2 bisa tengkurep..tapi ALMOST there...my prediction bentar lagi pasti bisa..my aunts and mom said mestinya belom waktunya..so they said caleb ini termasuk cepet perkembangannya..well, dunno deh bener apa ngga...krn aku ngga baca buku2 milestones gini...umur berapa bisa apa etc...taunya umur 6 bln uda mulai solid food..and setaon bisa jalan ..gitu doang hehehehe...
Thursday, June 4, 2009
story telling
I found another way to have a bonding time with caleb..(since I've stopped breastfeeding now)..
these 2 days have been telling stories to caleb..and he loves it!
yesterday i told him story about little red riding hood hehehe...and today is 3 little pigs and the wolf..he stared at me..watched my lips and then smiled a few times..and also coo-ing back at me..
love him more and more each day..
skrg caleb udah banyak maunya...just 10wk old tapi uda minta digendong dgn posisi duduk..
he's now more awake on the day...he can play for 2-3 hours before his nap..well actually bukan maen sih..just staring, observing the room..tapi dia cepet bosen jd hrs ganti2 posisi n arah terus hehe...wahh uda brp yg beratnya...uda capek nih gendong dia..apalagi dia maunya digendong yg aneh2 hahaha..uda gak mau posisi lying down lg (except kalo uda ngantuk)..
tomorrow hubby's coming again..yayy...can't wait to see him! ^^
these 2 days have been telling stories to caleb..and he loves it!
yesterday i told him story about little red riding hood hehehe...and today is 3 little pigs and the wolf..he stared at me..watched my lips and then smiled a few times..and also coo-ing back at me..
love him more and more each day..
skrg caleb udah banyak maunya...just 10wk old tapi uda minta digendong dgn posisi duduk..
he's now more awake on the day...he can play for 2-3 hours before his nap..well actually bukan maen sih..just staring, observing the room..tapi dia cepet bosen jd hrs ganti2 posisi n arah terus hehe...wahh uda brp yg beratnya...uda capek nih gendong dia..apalagi dia maunya digendong yg aneh2 hahaha..uda gak mau posisi lying down lg (except kalo uda ngantuk)..
tomorrow hubby's coming again..yayy...can't wait to see him! ^^
Tuesday, April 14, 2009
feels the old me is back!
Pas perjalanan balik dari ICA, aku udah bikin rencana...kan minggu depan caleb uda pas 1 bulan..masa confinement pun berkahir...rencana aku mau beraktifitas seperti dulu..mau bersih2 rumah!! hehe...
emang skrg ada suster yang tiap pagi bersih2..cuma aku pengen ngelakuin sendiri..selaen karena bersih2 itu adalah kesenangan tersendiri (puas rasanya kalo rumah bersih..dari dulu emang suka cleaning my own house...jadi bukan suatu beban sih hehe)...juga krn skalian pengen nyobain kalo ntar uda gak ada suster, hari2ku sama caleb di rumah gimana...jadi biar gak kaget gitu loh...
eh tapi sampe rumah liat kamar mandi di master room quite messy..kena tumpahan kapur sirih jd putih2 smua..dan emang uda lama gak dibersihin...wahhh gak tahan..langsung deh ambil sikat and bersihin...gak usah pake nunggu minggu depan lah..
setelah bersihin kamar mandi, lanjut bersihin kamar...
hmmm puas dehhh....berasa kayak the old me is back..
dan pas setelah bersih2, caleb bangun..and aku mulai maen2 ama dia...
dari sini bisa dapet bayangan most likely ntar gak ada suster aku bakal begini nih...
soal masak...aku dah pikirin bener2...pasti aku gak bisa pegang yg satu ini...jadi I'm really considering utk ambil catering mon-fri...weekend baru masak :)
Amsal 31.here I come! jiayouu...!!!!
emang skrg ada suster yang tiap pagi bersih2..cuma aku pengen ngelakuin sendiri..selaen karena bersih2 itu adalah kesenangan tersendiri (puas rasanya kalo rumah bersih..dari dulu emang suka cleaning my own house...jadi bukan suatu beban sih hehe)...juga krn skalian pengen nyobain kalo ntar uda gak ada suster, hari2ku sama caleb di rumah gimana...jadi biar gak kaget gitu loh...
eh tapi sampe rumah liat kamar mandi di master room quite messy..kena tumpahan kapur sirih jd putih2 smua..dan emang uda lama gak dibersihin...wahhh gak tahan..langsung deh ambil sikat and bersihin...gak usah pake nunggu minggu depan lah..
setelah bersihin kamar mandi, lanjut bersihin kamar...
hmmm puas dehhh....berasa kayak the old me is back..
dan pas setelah bersih2, caleb bangun..and aku mulai maen2 ama dia...
dari sini bisa dapet bayangan most likely ntar gak ada suster aku bakal begini nih...
soal masak...aku dah pikirin bener2...pasti aku gak bisa pegang yg satu ini...jadi I'm really considering utk ambil catering mon-fri...weekend baru masak :)
Amsal 31.here I come! jiayouu...!!!!
Saturday, April 4, 2009
how's motherhood?
alot of people have been asking me 'how's motherhood?'
well, I don't really know how to answer this question or find the right words for it...
maybe you guys need to ask me again next month hehehe..as this is really something new for me..i mean I haven't even hit 2 weeks yet..
but this is some pictures to describe how..
hmm my life is pretty much like this everyday...
night time after midnite will be just me, hubby and baby in the room...trying to put baby to sleep...and then we will wake up 2-4 hourly (Depends on caleb's feeding time)..while hubby feeds him, I will do my pumping job...
morning..I've to wake up sometimes as early as 5AM or 7 and if we're lucky at 8AM. and then pump again...
from 10AM onwards til 11PM it's breast job...every 1-2hourly..
sela2 waktu itu...sometimes I take nap...other time..I do sterilizing the bottles, warming my breast milk using AVENT...changing my baby diaper...carry him...put him to sleep...bath him..
so everyday is about baby and baby...
my only escape is this blog and FB where I get to socialize and keep in touch with outsiders...
so it's pretty much a routine.
am I happy? yes...have I adjusted well to my new life? honestly, not really...so it's difficult to answer your question whether I enjoy motherhood :)
I realize we always want something else..one after another and never be satisfied with what we have...padahal segala sesuatu ada season-nya yang shrsnya kita nikmati kan...
waktu belom hamil..pengen bgt bisa hamil..uda gak sabar tiap bulan ngetes positive apa gak...
begitu uda hamil kena morning sickness...rasanya menderita bangettt..pengen cepet2 9 bln n anak lahir...pas uda lahir pergumulan baru...sleepless nights, tiring days come..and we wish our baby grow faster...and then when he grows, we start thinking 'OMG we need to prepare his school fee" and so on and so on...
right now..I really wish my baby grows faster..reaching 1 month old..when he can smile and laugh..he'll be so cute..and then cant wait when he can sleep better at night...and wish he can walk and talk...hehehe I'm thinking pas dia uda seumur jethro or kayla..he'll be so cute..easier to take care hehehe...
and I've a dream...been praying to God..someday or next year..we will be moving to a condo with full facility..just nice when he reaches 1 yr old, i can take him for a swim..in a nice swimming pool..i got the feeling he enjoys swimming coz now he seems to enjoy his bath time already...
and my hubby can use the gym facility...what a dream.. :)
let it be a dream come true...
well, I don't really know how to answer this question or find the right words for it...
maybe you guys need to ask me again next month hehehe..as this is really something new for me..i mean I haven't even hit 2 weeks yet..
but this is some pictures to describe how..
hmm my life is pretty much like this everyday...
night time after midnite will be just me, hubby and baby in the room...trying to put baby to sleep...and then we will wake up 2-4 hourly (Depends on caleb's feeding time)..while hubby feeds him, I will do my pumping job...
morning..I've to wake up sometimes as early as 5AM or 7 and if we're lucky at 8AM. and then pump again...
from 10AM onwards til 11PM it's breast job...every 1-2hourly..
sela2 waktu itu...sometimes I take nap...other time..I do sterilizing the bottles, warming my breast milk using AVENT...changing my baby diaper...carry him...put him to sleep...bath him..
so everyday is about baby and baby...
my only escape is this blog and FB where I get to socialize and keep in touch with outsiders...
so it's pretty much a routine.
am I happy? yes...have I adjusted well to my new life? honestly, not really...so it's difficult to answer your question whether I enjoy motherhood :)
I realize we always want something else..one after another and never be satisfied with what we have...padahal segala sesuatu ada season-nya yang shrsnya kita nikmati kan...
waktu belom hamil..pengen bgt bisa hamil..uda gak sabar tiap bulan ngetes positive apa gak...
begitu uda hamil kena morning sickness...rasanya menderita bangettt..pengen cepet2 9 bln n anak lahir...pas uda lahir pergumulan baru...sleepless nights, tiring days come..and we wish our baby grow faster...and then when he grows, we start thinking 'OMG we need to prepare his school fee" and so on and so on...
right now..I really wish my baby grows faster..reaching 1 month old..when he can smile and laugh..he'll be so cute..and then cant wait when he can sleep better at night...and wish he can walk and talk...hehehe I'm thinking pas dia uda seumur jethro or kayla..he'll be so cute..easier to take care hehehe...
and I've a dream...been praying to God..someday or next year..we will be moving to a condo with full facility..just nice when he reaches 1 yr old, i can take him for a swim..in a nice swimming pool..i got the feeling he enjoys swimming coz now he seems to enjoy his bath time already...
and my hubby can use the gym facility...what a dream.. :)
let it be a dream come true...
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